Andrew and Akina Cox: Meet the Moonies

“A hip young artist couple find themselves in an arranged marriage.”

After following the Strangers podcast for a while, I was surprised to come across a couple I recognized. Though I don’t know them well, the moonie community is small, so we went to the same summer camps.

They live on the border between the world of the Unification Church and the normal world.  They’re in a happy relationship with someone who understands the weirdness that goes along with growing up as a moonie, but without actually being in the church anymore.

Honestly, I’m a little jealous of them. To listen to the whole podcast, click below.

 

We’re All Hiding Something

This TED Talk struck a chord with me. If you’ve been following this blog for a while, I’m sure it’ll come as no surprise that my “closet” was not believing in the Unification Church.

Years ago, I’d spoken to my parents about how I didn’t really believe in the church. Although, I was vague about it and didn’t go into details about what I did and didn’t believe, it still felt good to get it partially off my chest. But because I wasn’t direct, my parents held out hope that I’d change my mind – exactly like she says in the TED talk. For a while, they kept trying to match me with church guys, urging me to “just give them a chance”. At one point I snapped at them and said in no uncertain terms to “back off!”

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Introduction

I’m 27 years old and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I might as well start this blog with that out in the open. This used to make me feel like there was something wrong with me. I felt trapped, thinking “I’ve never had a boyfriend, and no guy would ever date a girl in her mid-twenties who has never had a boyfriend, so I will never ever have a boyfriend”.

Now I’m (relatively) okay with this fact about me. I don’t feel stuck. It’s just where I happen to be now.

So how did I come to be in this situation?

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