Postcard of the week

Here’s another from Australia:


Hello Sandra,

I am very much for marriage :). As the years have passed, I have watched many people do their family trees and put family reunions together and I think in another 20-40 years there are going to be many disappointed people because they can’t track parents and grandparents, let alone further back.

I was a lucky one, found my life partner and never looked back :), 30 years this year.

Problems are easy to work out if you both have respect for each other and a determination to remember why you got married in the first place. I can only hope the same for our kids 🙂

Happy Postcrossing,

Distance travelled: 1,537 miles (2,473 kms)

A Valentine’s Day Postcard


Japan has a slightly different approach to Valentine’s Day:

Hello Sandra,

I’m Junko from Japan. I love animals, walking, nature, traveling, tea & coffee, my lovely cats.

On Valentine’s Day, it’s common for Japanese women to give chocolates to men. Women are encouraged to express love to men by giving chocolates and other gifts.

Best wishes to all of you,

Junko ❤

Distance travelled: 5,765 miles (9,278 kms)




A Postcard from Germany


Hello Sandra,

As for relationships and dating, I wish I had known before that a person can be immensely charming, but still be posionous for you. I wish I had known before that words are worthless and if actions contradict words, it’s pointless to even try to save a relationship. I wish I had know that people never change. I wish I had known that love is such an incredible feeling 🙂

What about you? What have you learned from your experiences?

Distance travelled: 11,466 miles (18,453 kilometers)

Since this blog is already essentially about me learning from my experiences, I’ll pose her questions to you readers:

What have you learned from your experiences in dating and relationships?




A Postcard from Ukraine

Julia sent a postcard of Ukrainian embroidery:


Hello Sandra!

This is ‘rushnyk’ and it’s a very precious thing which symbolises love and unity of the family. Girls make it even nowa days and it’s an obligatory accessory at the Ukranian weddings.

Wish you all the best,
Julia from Kyiv

Distance Traveled: 10,625 miles (17,099 kms)



2 Postcards from Australia

Today I’ll share, not one, but two postcards from Australia that arrived on the same day.

koala postcard

First, Kay from Sydney writes:

Hullo Sandra,

I take it you are a young girl with ideals of romance, dating etc.  I remember those teenage days! I was so absorbed with my career and did not marry until 25 years of age, but chose the wrong one!! After my divorce and again more of a career person, waited another 10 years before I decided to go to Australia to work and guess what fell in love with a fellow passenger on board ship and I wasn’t expecting to remarry again. Life is very strange. The love bug bites at an time in your life!

All good wishes.


And second, some wise words from Kim, somewhere in New South Wales:

married rings postcard

Hi Sandra.

I have been married for 21 years. If I could give any advice it would be to let young people know that relationships have highs + lows. That is perfectly normal. Don’t give up when things seem tough. Also don’t assume your partner knows what you’re thinking. Speak up, talk things through.

All the best.


Total distance traveled: 7,512 + 7,415 = 14,927 miles

A Postcard from the Netherlands

Today’s postcard comes from Pieter in the Netherlands:

Netherlands Postcard

“My name is Pieter and I’m living in the Netherlands in the city Rotterdam. I’m working in a Maritime Museum. My partner is already 23 years dead. It was my first love and I have no one I can find anymore. Now I’m living together with my cat and we are very happy. I wish you good luck and greetings from the Netherlands.”

Distance traveled: 5,357 miles

Another Postcard from Russia

Today’s postcard is another short story from Russia:

Russia Postcard

“My first date and kiss happened July 19, 2015. It was like a holiday romance. My birthday on January 19 and bday of my partner’s – 19 February! I met him, riding a horse! He worked there as an instructor and I love nature and animals. He rolled me in the coach like a princess and then called to meet and take a walk! I wish you a wonderful day!”

Distance traveled: 5,805 miles

A Postcard from Russia

Postcard - Love

Today’s postcard shares a cute little story from a woman in Russia.

“Last summer I had a really fantastic date that has changed my life completely… I had a date with a man who I hadn’t never seen before this day. For this date I travelled 3000 km by train and we met in a small Russian town and spent there 3 weeks together. And now, I’m writing this card and he is sleeping on the sofa next to me. We decided to get married.”

Distance traveled: 5781 miles

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Postcard Surveys and Stories

Postcards Postcrossing

In the past I’ve used  to swap postcards with random people all over the world, just for fun. Now I’m using it to find out a little more about the dating culture around the world.

On the incoming postcards, I’ve requested that the senders share anything they want about dating.

On the outgoing postcards I’m conducting a very short survey:

  1. In your culture, how old is too old to be single…
    1. for a female?
    2. for a male?
  2. In your culture, how young is too young to get married…
    1. for a female?
    2. for a male?
  3. Do/did your parents put pressure on you to get married?
    1. Yes, a lot
    2. Yes, but not too much
    3. No

I sent out a small batch of postcards not too long ago and the responses are slowly trickling in. It’ll take awhile until I’ve had enough survey responses to share the results, but I’ll share any dating stories as they come in.

I’m excited to see how this turns out! Do any of you readers have ideas for questions about the dating culture in other countries?