In the past I’ve used Postcrossing.com to swap postcards with random people all over the world, just for fun. Now I’m using it to find out a little more about the dating culture around the world.
On the incoming postcards, I’ve requested that the senders share anything they want about dating.
On the outgoing postcards I’m conducting a very short survey:
I sent out a small batch of postcards not too long ago and the responses are slowly trickling in. It’ll take awhile until I’ve had enough survey responses to share the results, but I’ll share any dating stories as they come in.
I’m excited to see how this turns out! Do any of you readers have ideas for questions about the dating culture in other countries?
Part of the series of comics on dating and math.
OkCupid analyzes its users’ data and publishes insights in The Deep End.
Their recent article takes a look at the changes from 2005 to 2015, with some surprising results, starting with this question:
It’s a dramatic drop, but my first reaction was that this could be a reflection of online dating becoming more common, rather than a major shift in sexual behavior.
One of my favorite podcasts is The Allusionist. With the tagline of ‘Small Adventures in Language’, it features humorously told linguistic stories.
The latest episode takes a look at lonely hearts ads (personal ads for us Americans) dating back as far as 1695. It’s surprising how little has changed.
The creators of this episode have issued the following warning:
WARNING: Some of the content is a little saucy, but not, like, swimming in sauce.
Listen or download here.
Note: WLTM (the name of the episode) is just newspaper shorthand for ‘Would Like to Meet’. I was hoping for a slightly more exciting meaning.
Last month, I had a guy staying at my house for a whole week. My flatmates were away, so it was just the two of us alone in the house (gasp!). We’re just friends, so nothing happened, but it felt so refreshingly normal to be able to hang out with a guy on my own and not feel awkward. Five years ago this would have been way beyond my comfort zone.
Scrolling through Facebook, seeing so many pictures of happy couples, wedding photos and smiling babies, I feel like I’m the only one who isn’t in a relationship. Logically, I know this isn’t true, but judging by what I see on Facebook, I feel like I’m in a tiny minority.
I wanted to get a more accurate idea of the real proportion of singles to non-singles. Since I don’t tend to be jealous of people much older or younger than me, I focused on my age group, using my high school senior class as my sample population.
“No guy would ever date a girl with thighs as huge as mine.” I realize the ridiculousness of this statement when I see it written down, but I’m guilty of this and many other equally preposterous thoughts. I bet I’m not the only one. Some days, I’m convinced I have some specific flaw that is repelling all guys. Even though my logical side knows it’s not true, emotionally, it’s hard to convince myself otherwise. To gain some perspective, I took an objective look at this reoccurring thought. I split it into two hypotheses to investigate:
I’m 27 years old and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I might as well start this blog with that out in the open. This used to make me feel like there was something wrong with me. I felt trapped, thinking “I’ve never had a boyfriend, and no guy would ever date a girl in her mid-twenties who has never had a boyfriend, so I will never ever have a boyfriend”.
Now I’m (relatively) okay with this fact about me. I don’t feel stuck. It’s just where I happen to be now.
So how did I come to be in this situation?