A love note from the socially awkward. Can you relate?
Quiet Revolution is a website started by Susan Cain, author of the bestseller Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking.
If the thought of meeting someone in a loud bar or going out clubbing sounds dreadful to you, you might like their articles on dating:
Learning Spanish in a foreign country has had some unexpected consequences. I feel as if my social skills have regressed by about ten years. Sentences and questions I know perfectly well how to say turn into a jumble of ums, stuttered words and avoiding eye contact.
Strangers have become scary and intimidating again, even though it has nothing to do with the people themselves. It’s just my old, awkward self coming back to stir up trouble, saying that no one likes me and I’m bothering people if I try to talk to them. It’s frustrating.
A couple of days ago, I received some timely advice in the form of Mark Manson’s latest post, Shut Up and Be Patient. It reminded me that big changes take a long time. If I have some patience and keep practicing, I’ll feel more comfortable speaking in Spanish.
If you’re working on any major life changes, his article is worth a read. Or if you like Titanic references, it has that too. A word of warning: his writing style can be crass, but he has many compelling posts on self-improvement, relationships and life in general.
Last month, I had a guy staying at my house for a whole week. My flatmates were away, so it was just the two of us alone in the house (gasp!). We’re just friends, so nothing happened, but it felt so refreshingly normal to be able to hang out with a guy on my own and not feel awkward. Five years ago this would have been way beyond my comfort zone.