A Postcard from Russia

Postcard - Love

Today’s postcard shares a cute little story from a woman in Russia.

“Last summer I had a really fantastic date that has changed my life completely… I had a date with a man who I hadn’t never seen before this day. For this date I travelled 3000 km by train and we met in a small Russian town and spent there 3 weeks together. And now, I’m writing this card and he is sleeping on the sofa next to me. We decided to get married.”

Distance traveled: 5781 miles

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Andrew and Akina Cox: Meet the Moonies

“A hip young artist couple find themselves in an arranged marriage.”

After following the Strangers podcast for a while, I was surprised to come across a couple I recognized. Though I don’t know them well, the moonie community is small, so we went to the same summer camps.

They live on the border between the world of the Unification Church and the normal world.  They’re in a happy relationship with someone who understands the weirdness that goes along with growing up as a moonie, but without actually being in the church anymore.

Honestly, I’m a little jealous of them. To listen to the whole podcast, click below.

 

The Waxing Virgin

This episode of Strangers tells the story of Becca, who was a virgin in her thirties.

While my parents are a lot more accepting than hers seem to be, I could relate to a lot of her life, from the strict religious upbringing, the feeling of living a double life and the obsession with virginity.

It’s a good story. Strangers, as well as the other podcasts from Radiotopia are well worth a listen.

A word of caution: some of the anecdotes may be overly descriptive for some people.

 

Oops – Part 2

After the first date with Amar, I knew I didn’t want to take things any further. He was a decent guy, but his main interests seemed to be spending time on his computer or going out partying, which didn’t feel like a good fit for me. He was clearly still interested and texted me a few times. Rather than tell him how I felt, I just ignored his texts, leaving him to get the hint. I believe they call this technique the ‘fade out’ in dating jargon.

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Oops

I like to hike and I go reasonably often with groups organized through Meetup.com. On one particular walk, I went with a group of about 12 different people. There were several guys about my age and I talked to most of them along the 3 hour walk. One was a tall Iranian who had recently moved here and was working on his Phd in English literature. Of all the people on the walk, I talked with him the most.

A few days later, I got a message from Amar*. We messaged back and forth a little bit and eventually arranged to meet for drinks after work one evening. I was looking forward to it since he was quite a nice guy and we seemed to have a lot in common.

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A Breakup Email

I met Andrew* while playing tennis. We started spending a lot of time together, going for bike rides, out for dinner and watching movies. It was nice to have a default person to spend time with.

It was obvious that he wanted a girlfriend, which should have seemed great for me, the chronically single, but I found that I rarely initiated conversations with him, waiting for him to contact me and delaying responding to his text messages.

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