I can honestly say that right now, I’m thoroughly enjoying being single, and the funny thing is, the less time I spend wishing I was in a relationship, the more attention I get. I’ve literally had more guys interested in me in the past year than in the past ten!
It’s such a contrast to how I felt just over two years ago. Being single was an undesirable state that I wanted to get out of as soon as possible. Here’s a list of some of the thoughts and feelings I had about being single. You might be able to relate.
- There must be something wrong with me.
- Guys just don’t like me.
- If only I was in a relationship, then I’d be happy.
- People in relationships are better than me.
- Jealousy toward people in relationships.
- I would settle for any guy that was interested in me.
Now, I have a much more positive view:
- I’m much more comfortable striking up a conversation with guys on my own.
- I know that if I’m not happy with my life, being in a relationship will not fix that.
- I’m genuinely happy for my friends when they get into relationships or get married.
- I realize that being single is an opportunity to enjoy myself. I can do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it without having to check with anyone.
- I’m not in a rush to find a boyfriend, because I’d rather be single than in a relationship that isn’t quite right.
So I’m living proof that it is possible to enjoy being single. It’s hard to pinpoint exactly when or how my attitude changed. It’s been a gradual shift, though I do have some ideas about what has helped. I’ll share these in an upcoming article. Stay tuned!